I have something new to share with my readers -- readers who can now become viewers or listeners.
Instead of a written article, I'm sharing with you an interview I just did with Angela Erickson of the Integrated with Angela podcast. In this chat we discuss all aspects of domestic abuse, including some of my personal story.
We also discuss the psychological aspects of abusers, and that often-asked question:
Can abusers change?
My answer is yes!
With a gigantic amount of hard work (from both the abuser and the victim), patience, determination, love and spiritual renewal, someone with an abusive personality can take the Road to Damascus and become a virtuous, loving spouse.
Yes, it takes a great deal of excruciating effort from everyone involved. No, it's not an easy path. But for some couples, it's the path to take.
However, change isn't common. Often abusers will claim to "change," but it's merely part of the "love-bombing" phase of the abuse cycle. There are ways to discern to discern whether or not change is real, all of which take an immense amount of time.
I'm not talking weeks or months of time -- I'm talking years.
Many, multiple years.
If you have any questions about this topic, feel free to contact me.
With all that said, click the link below to watch my interview with Angela Erickson.
I'm Jenny duBay, a domestic abuse survivor and now advocate. My degree is in Christian theology with a concentration on spiritual direction, and my vocational emphasis is on helping those who have suffered from domestic abuse to heal and reclaim their true selves.