Misplaced empathy in an abusive relationship often leads to a spiritual dryness and a deep sense of wandering loss.
Empathy is seen as a positive virtue, one to be encouraged and nourished. And it is--empathy helps us not only to see another person, but to walk with them, be with them, love and nurture them in a way deeper than mere understanding can bring. Through empathy we can enter into another person's experiences and experience it with them, helping them to move through sorrow or sharing their joy.
Even so, empathy can go too far in certain situations. I realize this may sound odd, but hear me out ...
I'm Jenny duBay, a domestic abuse survivor and now advocate. My degree is in Christian theology with a concentration on spiritual direction, and my vocational emphasis is on helping those who have suffered from domestic abuse to heal and reclaim their true selves.