Covert narcissistic abuse is tricky, because these types of manipulators are "wolves in sheep's clothing."
“Don’t let the tricksters trick you, because if you turn around they’ll get you in the end.”
What an odd saying! And what does it mean?
First, let me give you a bit of background. One of my clients (“Juliet”) relayed to me that when she and her husband were newly married and she was still in the haze of not understanding what was wrong with her relationship, they went out for dinner. After paying the check and getting ready to leave, a strange and perhaps prophetic thing happened in the lobby of the restaurant, something that has stuck with her ever since.
An elderly gentleman was standing at the exit, his back to Juliet and her husband, silently gazing out of the doorway as he waited for his ride to pull up. Without warning he spun around and stared at Juliet, unblinking and unapologetic, as if to give her an urgent message that he was unsure of himself, but that he knew must be said.
“Don’t let the tricksters trick you, because if you turn around they’ll get you in the end,” he said, then just as abruptly he turned back around and walked out the door.
Did he know something Juliet was failing to see? Was he trying to give her a warning?
I'm Jenny duBay, a domestic abuse survivor and now advocate. My degree is in Christian theology with a concentration on spiritual direction, and my vocational emphasis is on helping those who have suffered from domestic abuse to heal and reclaim their true selves.