In my articles, I most often refer to the abuser as “he” and the victim/survivor as “she.” This isn’t because I’m unaware of the fact that women can be abusers and men can be victims — even though statistically women are more often the targets of abuse (85% of domestic abuse victims are female). However, I do understand that men can be the targets of abuse, too.
But because I happen to be a woman, I naturally tend to write from a woman’s perspective. I can’t pretend to know what it’s like to be a man, nor do I particularly want to. That would be quite presumptuous. Instead, I'll leave the male perspectives to the males, one of which I am not. This is due do the scientific fact that God didn't create me to be male. I embrace who I am, who God has willed me to be. I'm a girl. A female. A woman. etc.
So, there you have it. I'm the person God has desired me to be.
That’s why in my articles, I refer to abusers as “he” and survivors as “she.” If you happen to be a male survivor of abuse, please feel free to change the pronouns around in your head to make a more enjoyable reading experience. Really, I won’t be offended.
But because I happen to be a woman, I naturally tend to write from a woman’s perspective. I can’t pretend to know what it’s like to be a man, nor do I particularly want to. That would be quite presumptuous. Instead, I'll leave the male perspectives to the males, one of which I am not. This is due do the scientific fact that God didn't create me to be male. I embrace who I am, who God has willed me to be. I'm a girl. A female. A woman. etc.
So, there you have it. I'm the person God has desired me to be.
That’s why in my articles, I refer to abusers as “he” and survivors as “she.” If you happen to be a male survivor of abuse, please feel free to change the pronouns around in your head to make a more enjoyable reading experience. Really, I won’t be offended.
